HeliX sexual behaviour

Sexual behaviour of yours would be wasteful if it was not love-giving. For example, some men look at women's bodies randomly. This is not love-giving because the women don't feel men's love from it. Therefore, it's wasteful.

As another example, they touch their own sexual organ. Again, this is sexual behaviour, but it's not love-giving to the opposite sex.

Your sexuality belongs to women, and your sexual organ belongs to women, and therefore your sexual behaviour is to be only for the benefit of the opposite sex.

It's not enough that you're expressing love in your sexual behaviour. It must also be that it actually makes her feel good and that it serves her life.

Useless sexual behaviour would just dampen your aggressive drive, therefore reducing your ability to fight or exercise effectively.

I think there are good men who view things related to women through a lens of love and care - and that is where their sexual behaviour comes from.

And there are bad men who view things through a lens of lust and exploitation.

With the bad men, they treat most people as opportunities to exploit, and they only behave well because good society keeps them in check. Their good behaviour does not come from goodness. It comes from social norms. 

They have no special care for women and would only fake emotional warmth to the end of controlling a woman and sex.

The only differences between people, for them, are the differences to be exploited - weaknesses.

I think these men project their coldness onto other men, hence they will see a man expressing his warmth and protest that he (the good man) is not going to have sex with her - as though love doesn’t exist.

A man seeing a woman can trigger the same part of his brain as a cute animal or a baby, and it makes him happy and so he returns happiness. He will stroke the cat, for example, because of his love.

A bad man, however, doesn’t experience this world of love, so he can’t understand why someone would genuinely treat adorable creatures warmly – since he gets 'nothing in return' from it. But the fact is that the good man's brain already gave him happiness basically just by living in the same world as the lovely being, so, in the good man's brain, he is the one returning happiness to the world.

I don’t really have a favourite animal right now, but for many years my favourite animal was the squirrel, which is cute, relative to, say, the lion.

I think that when a man truly has a ‘lion’s heart’, he doesn’t see anything special about the lion. The lion is not interested in himself. He sees the other cute creatures and admires them. In fact, for someone to represent something, like a country, as a lion, or get a lion tattoo, to me, is a bad sign.

I also really liked ants and sometimes made ‘ant houses’ and fed ants when I was younger. Probably, me liking ants can be explained by their cooperative nature. I’ve learned about the bad side of ants, and now I don’t like them so much, but anyway.

Cate:

but the bad men seem to outnumber the good men when u consider how popular porn is

Porn is lust and exploitation

No love involved

A recent NZ study of the top 200 videos kiwis watched on Pornhub also revealed that 35% of the videos contain non-consensual behaviour, 10% showed physical violence and 71% of the scenes had no affection.

A:

There’s a spectrum of good, I guess.

When I watched porn and didn’t have any issue with it, I still had some sense that it was love.

Like, one time I was watching a video, and a guy was fucking a woman who was lying down on the bed, and I thought that’s nice I guess, but then he put his hand on her neck and I though that’s really disrespectful and crazy, and I stopped watching the video. 

Like, the only times someone has put their hands on my neck was an autistic guy a couple times trying to hurt me - so you can’t really say that he loves her neck in particular or something.

Later I found out there’s even more crazy stuff, like squeezing the neck, which is unhealthy and surely comes straight from the idea of threatening her life in order to keep her down.

So, yeah, the world is and has been terrible and we should probably work on making things love-based.

yeah there is such a lack of affection in porn, but at the same time the sex is the affection, so it's very subjective whether something is seen as affectionate.

You can have a caption on porn which says like that the woman is being used or is a hole or is a fuck doll, even though you, the viewer, don't see it that way, and a similar video could call the same thing love, but they don't do that.

Naturally, loving men have more important things to do than watch porn or write porn descriptions.

If I watch a porn clip, it’s much more enjoyable if I imagine it as love, and the man is expressing his deep love by doing obscene things, to get as physically close to her as possible and as private as possible. It’s a kind of headspace you can get into.

And therefore the reason the man ‘takes control’ is because he is taking action to express love.

I guess there are men where they find it more enjoyable if they imagine it as male power and control, not in expressing love but in ownership and probably degradation.

Most men are obviously detached from the woman as a person when they watch porn, and I think they’re not really thinking about the woman’s pleasure or the bond between man and woman - they’re just thinking about body parts for the most part I think.

I mean, there can’t be a lot of big brain stuff going on when someone’s watching porn. Someone with a big brain would do something more mentally engaging.

And that’s why I think there is a horseshoe spectrum in terms of “good” and “bad” porn. In the good porn, the man is the active participant because it’s about his love for her, and he watches the porn because he wants to see women being loved and receiving love – and in the bad stuff the man is also dominant but that’s because it’s about basically sexual slavery. Basically rape.

The reason we live in a terrible world is because politicians are stupid and useless, and the reason they’re stupid and useless is because the political systems are stupid and useless.

Just in the past several days, I have invented a non-useless political system.

There's also an internet hub here, which was born a few days ago and I'm working on, which the government would have made if they weren't useless and unable to make actual meaningful progress and serve people.

Malena:

You’re talking about porn like it’s some spiritual journey to be enlightened with a touch of romantic literature all wrapped in one. 

Idk if this is your way of coping or.. if you’re just pretending that adding a mental filter to random porn clips makes you ethically better than other gooners?

A:

Negativity bias.

I'm describing the detachment in which people watch porn, and how an innocent person would view porn if they lived in utopia.

I'm not advertising porn or advertising getting into a mindset so that you can watch porn, because if you're in that mindset all the time, you wouldn't watch it.

It's an effortful and aware state of mind which takes intelligence and empathy that the species lacks. If everybody had that state of mind all the time, porn wouldn't exist.

You have to know what is good in order to know why porn is bad.

The magical/mystical thing is about romance generally, and if one is innocent, they would assume that porn is romantic, because they are naive.

People aren't gonna stop gooning if you don't enlighten them about love and true happiness, and what is good sexual behaviour, to make them realize that they goon because they live in broken society.

[insert the the links on the negative effects of porn use if I can find them]